Last week I was speaking with a client about a few girls he had some interest in. Not feeling that a particular girl was a good match for him I crossed her off his list. He responded saying, “I don’t care if the girls a crazy wife, I can handle that. I just don’t want a crazy mom to my kids.” I started laughing! And once I stopped I told him he was an idiot and I was surprised he had a diploma, and then I laughed some more.
Listen up boys….
If you marry someone that doesn’t understand who they are as a daughter of God and is all confused on where their esteem should be derived from – chances are that your little girls will grow up the same way!
Your kids growing up watching a ‘crazy marriage’ isn’t going to help them one bit in their own pursuits later!
I tried to explain to my client that it just doesn’t work that way. Daughters grow up to be like their mom’s, and boys grow up to be like their dad’s. Obviously there are exceptions to this rule – I have known many exceptional transitional characters that have stopped bad patterns continuing on from generation to generation. But knowing how innate it is for us to end up similar to that which surrounds us for the first 18 years of our life…WHY would you knowingly invite in a bad example? If you marry crazy, they’re gunna probably stay crazy, then your kids will be crazy, then my kids will be trying to marry your crazy kids and the worlds going to get all kinds of screwed up!
Save the world and say no to crazy!
Who knew! John Mayer was right after all: “Fathers be good to your daughters; Daughters will love like you do. Girls become lovers, who turn into mothers, so mothers be good to your daughters, too.”
Tristen is so smart! You are exactly right!
There is plenty of crazy to go around with normal people…
It is far more important that the mother of your kids be smart and know who she is than it is for the father! She is the one that will have the blessing of teaching them who they are and what they need to do to return to live their father in heaven. It is my goal to create a loving home and support my wife so that she can devote the time needed for our children as well as for herself.
Being a transitional character is the hardest. Learned behaviors are hard if not sometimes impossible to unlearn especially without professional help. Three cheers for not being crazy! haha