I always wanted to know everything about something. Last week I heard that I had accomplished that very goal! A friend told me I was a “know-it-all” about dating. The best part was she didn’t tell me to my face…so you know she was super genuine in saying it! I laughed when I heard this because I can only imagine how many people share her strong opinion towards me. Bygones.
The thing is…there actually are a lot of very educated people out there that in my opinion certainly do ‘know-it-all’ in regards to relationships. I love those people! I love to read what they have to share. My mind is quite focused on helping people create new family relationships, so naturally most that I come across somehow resonates with me in that sense. I see parallels all over the place in regards to dating, marriage, and family. I enjoy reading the words of the prophets, church leaders, and family educators and then forming personal opinions of my own. I also love to observe everyday individuals, couples, and families and see what I can learn from their lives.
Some day’s I’m better than others at remembering that when people ask for your advice they usually don’t want it- they just want someone to listen and empathize with them. If you’ve caught me on a day when that lesson is far forgotten and it seems my tact has been lost….my apologies. I don’t mean anything by it, I’m just not very good at sugar coating, and I’m trying to figure it all out just like you.
We have a new challenge for us in dating these days. No longer are we ok with just having someone that wants to marry us. Now we want so much more from our relationships. We want someone that fulfills us mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. With all these greater expectations I feel like we’ve got to become more educated on how to get what it is that we ardently desire and live for. Without a better understanding of how to get what it is we want I think we are mistakenly concluding that most of our matches are not right for us…when in reality lots are probably perfect for us!
So…therefore I would like to become a prodigy of the relationship know-it-all’s – because we need to update our dating skills. One day I’d like to go back to school and become a real deal certified know-it-all in this field…but till then my personal opinions are what you’re going to get. Take what you like and leave the rest! xoxo