I always wanted to know everything about something. Last week I heard that I had accomplished that very goal! A friend told me I was a “know-it-all” about dating. The best part was she didn’t tell me to my face…so you know she was super genuine in saying it! I laughed when I heard this because I can only imagine how many people share her strong opinion towards me. Bygones.
The thing is…there actually are a lot of very educated people out there that in my opinion certainly do ‘know-it-all’ in regards to relationships. I love those people! I love to read what they have to share. My mind is quite focused on helping people create new family relationships, so naturally most that I come across somehow resonates with me in that sense. I see parallels all over the place in regards to dating, marriage, and family. I enjoy reading the words of the prophets, church leaders, and family educators and then forming personal opinions of my own. I also love to observe everyday individuals, couples, and families and see what I can learn from their lives.
Some day’s I’m better than others at remembering that when people ask for your advice they usually don’t want it- they just want someone to listen and empathize with them. If you’ve caught me on a day when that lesson is far forgotten and it seems my tact has been lost….my apologies. I don’t mean anything by it, I’m just not very good at sugar coating, and I’m trying to figure it all out just like you.
We have a new challenge for us in dating these days. No longer are we ok with just having someone that wants to marry us. Now we want so much more from our relationships. We want someone that fulfills us mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. With all these greater expectations I feel like we’ve got to become more educated on how to get what it is that we ardently desire and live for. Without a better understanding of how to get what it is we want I think we are mistakenly concluding that most of our matches are not right for us…when in reality lots are probably perfect for us!
So…therefore I would like to become a prodigy of the relationship know-it-all’s – because we need to update our dating skills. One day I’d like to go back to school and become a real deal certified know-it-all in this field…but till then my personal opinions are what you’re going to get. Take what you like and leave the rest! xoxo
How about a service delivered via skype OR google’s new video chat/hangout.
1) Men just show up.. and you get an instant read/vibe from them. Men would pay for your blunt, no-nonsense personal opinion of how they are showing up. A 3 woman panel, might be better.. like they do it on the millionaire matchmaker.
additional services
-online dating site reviews (does my profile really work for who I’m trying to attract)
-warddrobe reviews & ideas for improvement
-Q&A
lets be honest… the know-it-all really don’t know it all anyway.. only God knows it all. furthermore… Malcolm Gladwell proposes that know-it-alls may actually not be as wise as a snap decision put forth in his book “Blink”
The author describes the main subject of his book as “thin-slicing”: our ability to gauge what is really important from a very narrow period of experience. In other words, this is an idea that spontaneous decisions are often as good as—or even better than—carefully planned and considered ones
I like where you’re going with this…and have some thoughts of my own. Let’s swap stories!!! XOXO